How to orgasm simultaneously
A shared orgasm is one of the most intimate and exciting experiences a couple can share during sex, but like so many beautiful things, it's not easy to achieve.
But far from being an unattainable treasure at the end of a glorious rainbow of near misses, simultaneous climax with your partner doesn't have to remain a fantasy, as there are a few things you can do to increase the chances of synchronous success.
Get to the Edge
Edging is a form of orgasm control where you bring yourself (or your partner) almost to the point of orgasm and then pull back. It sounds like the ultimate tease—and can be incorporated into BDSM practices if desired—but it also heightens awareness of pre-orgasm body signals and helps you better control the timing of orgasm.
Try it in Round 2
On average, men take between three and five minutes to orgasm during sex, while for women, it's more like twelve to fourteen minutes, so the math doesn't quite add up.
The likelihood of you both climaxing together later in your lovemaking is therefore significantly increased, as he, having already had an orgasm himself, should—let's say—have a bit more stamina to help you both climax the second time around.
Finishing Moves
There are many myths and facts about orgasms, but the idea that certain positions lead to orgasm more easily than others is definitely not one of them.
The clitoris and G-spot are among a woman's most erogenous zones. Therefore, it is advisable to choose positions that specifically stimulate these two areas. Missionary and cowgirl positions allow for manual stimulation of the clitoris, which is how most women achieve orgasm. You can also try these positions during solo sex to get used to orgasming in similar positions with your partner.
Knowing which position quickly brings the male partner to orgasm can be useful both for avoiding something while the female partner herself is climaxing, and for switching to a position at the end that helps both achieve an explosive shared climax.
Use a Vibrator
A blended orgasm is an orgasm achieved by stimulating more than one erogenous zone simultaneously; for example, the clitoris and G-spot, or the penis and prostate.
Using your favorite toys together—first for masturbation and then during sex as a couple—is a great way to figure out exactly what you and your partner enjoy.
